• Human Reefs Need Saving Too

    Coral polyps are soft, fleshy creatures that form exoskeletons to survive. Similarly, human beings are vital souls whose efforts to repel evil and cultivate goodness yield formal systems that demarcate a society.

    The bright colors of a thriving reef come from the algae that corals farm for nutrients. In human societies, the cultural colors of comedy, tragedy, eroticism and remorse all require fixed boundaries to exist.

    The intricate spaces of coral reefs provide shelter to small fish, because large predators cannot penetrate the narrow fissures. In a human society, a cultural system of taboos and expectations protects the weak by limiting and directing the actions of the strong.

    Blast fishing explodes dynamite to stun fish so that many can be netted quickly. Collateral damage is the destruction of coral reefs with their dependent ecosystems. For generations, Western societies have employed a blast-fishing approach for material progress at the expense of spiritual infrastructure.

    The Judeo-Christian  ban against idolatry, the charge to revere the name of God were exploded to make way for the supersize ego. Holy sabbaths, interdiction of envy crumbled in the path of economic expansion. Honoring father and mother, refraining from adultery blew up when familial bonds got in the way of individual self-interest. It’s not just that the Ten Commandments are no longer held sacred: there is no longer any concept of the sacred.

    People who still seek wholeness and holiness find themselves immersed in a toxic waste and shudder daily at the shocks of brutality let loose in their midst. Suddenly grotesque violence explodes. But from repetition we have become numb even to that.

    Not all of the destruction is accidental. Ideological campaigns to erase all formal boundaries have explicitly targeted moral restrictions. Big players blast away at ethical barriers in the name of freedom. For large egos, freedom requires the total elimination of all structures.

    No boundary, ergo no transgression. No transgression, ergo no guilt. No guilt, ergo no pain. The sales pitch has been a promise to eradicate pain. It is as a form of pain that guilt has been banished. The lure of numbness generates enormous profits for peddlers of drugs and distractions. Millions too zoned out to react to their own destruction float into the nets of profiteers.

    In this wasteland devoid of impeding structures, Homo neuroticus thrashes about. Neuroticus used to be a rare breed and was called “crazy” in the vernacular. Psychologists of a previous era observed an association between neuroticus and guilt, but they didn’t have many specimens to analyze. Freudians assumed that neuroticus must be the offspring of guilt, because the two were often seen together.

    Neuroticus is insensitive to humor, grief and remorse. It must contort itself to get sexual pleasure. It expends furious energy to control everything in its environment. But it cannot control itself.

    Neuroticus experiences its own impulses as irresistible. Its ego prevents it from admitting that it could ever do anything wrong. With no cultural boundaries to limit its movements, neuroticus becomes larger and larger and hungrier and hungrier. No joke can live in the vicinity of neuroticus. No sorrow clings. Mercy has fled. 

    Can the bleached skeleton of this cultural desert revive?

    The wrecking would have to stop. We would have to cultivate once more a moral system of formal behaviors that define right living.

    The part of us that fights evil is our conscience. Our conscience is the spiritual organ that corresponds to our physical nervous system. Just as your nerves react when you’ve injured yourself and produce pain, so your conscience reacts when you’ve incurred spiritual damage by doing wrong. A healthy conscience can feel qualms, remorse, contrition. A robust conscience can move you to repent and change your behavior. The ability to feel guilty enables you to survive spiritually, just as the ability to feel pain enables you to survive physically.

    Neither the body nor the soul can live long in a state of numbness or indifference. Temporarily you may feel relief from evil when moral limits disappear from your habitat. But then the murky haze of a featureless landscape disorients you.

    You become neuroticus. Anything and everything in the cloudy murk triggers a spasmodic reaction. Soon you too are lashing out aimlessly, inflicting harm on those around you.

    Guilt is not the parent of neuroticus. Guilt is its guide through the deep. When you have a sense of where the boundaries are, you can direct your actions purposefully.

    Bring the reef back. We could laugh again. We could weep together. We could live.

    Hate the urgings of self-will.  (Rule of Saint Benedict 4. 60)

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  • Love Your Enemies

    Love your enemies (Matthew 5:43-48; Luke 6: 27-35)

    (Rule of Saint Benedict 4. 31)

    Loving your enemies sounds like a nice idea until you actually have enemies yourself.

    When someone asked Jesus, “who is my neighbor?” he responded with the parable of the Good Samaritan, which turns the question on its head. We are to be neighbors even to inveterate cultural enemies. But no one ever asked Jesus, “who is my enemy?” This, it seems, we are left to figure out.

    An enemy is not merely someone with whom you disagree. You can disagree passionately with friends on all sorts of topics, as long as you have something more important in common.

    Nor is an enemy an opponent in a game. An opponent recognizes the same boundaries you do and does not harm you in real life.

    An enemy is not even necessarily someone with whom you are in conflict. Sometimes the angry person turns out not to be a beast. If you give the benefit of the doubt, engage, and communicate what’s going on from your perspective, sometimes you find that the enemy is a neighbor after all.

    An enemy, in brief, is someone who acts deliberately on the intent to harm you. After you’ve attempted to resolve a conflict peacefully, the person who stabs you in the back can fairly be called an enemy.

    And this is the person we’re called to love.

    A Christian concept of love is essentially voluntary. We know that God is love. But we also know that God is not our slave. So, neither are we enslaved to those we love. Love ends where coercion begins.

    Therefore, if you are going to love anyone, first you must be free. More to the point: you must be free from the enemy in question. If your enemy is more powerful than you are, escape is the first order of business. Extricate yourself, and then work on making new friends, because even evil people tend to avoid attacking someone who has relationships with others.

    If you are, then, free to love, the question becomes, what is love?

    We know that “the Lord disciplines those he loves” (Hebrews 12:6; Proverbs 3: 12). Therefore a Christian concept of love includes setting boundaries and enforcing standards. Love sets aside the self-interest of the moment for the good of the other person. But the good of the other person is not always what that person demands. When someone wants something that is not good, you say no, for love’s sake.

    The most terrible enemies are the ones you always loved, and who, you thought, also loved you. Those are the ones who break your heart. There’s nothing quite like the distress of loving the antagonist who once was dear. The world roils with enemies who are exes.

    Whether the situation is tragic or merely wearisome, loving any sort of enemy requires a combination of efforts. First, you must finesse your way out of range of whatever harm your enemy might inflict. Further, you must refrain from inflicting whatever revenge is within reach. Ultimately, you must make the extra effort to be the sort of person your enemy is not.

    Your enemy is enraged, but you must be respectful. Your enemy is vindictive, but you must be peacable. Your enemy is selfish, but you must be generous. Your enemy is false, but you must be true.

    Nothing anyone can say will ever make this easy, but the Holy Spirit can make it possible.

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  • Bear Injuries Patiently

     

    Bearing injuries patiently is not a sign of weakness.  It’s a sign of goodness.  Only the strong bear up.  Only the good restrain themselves when evil beckons, because evil is not their master.

    This isn’t about defending yourself in the moment of attack.  You have the right to self-defense.  This is about the aftermath: now what?

    Weak people fall apart and lash out at everyone around them as they disintegrate.  For a brief moment, they enjoy an experience of power: the power to destroy.  There’s something appealing about power, even when you know it’s fleeting, even when you know it’s hateful.  The Church calls this appeal the glamor of evil.  As Christians, we reject it, along with Satan and all his works.

    Strong people hold themselves together, hold onto what they know is good and hold out for what they know is right.  Sometimes they hang on by their fingernails.  As Christians, this is the character we aspire to, and God knows it’s hard.  Sometimes the path leads straight up the face of a cliff.

    You can be on the right path and still fall and get hurt.  Getting hurt doesn’t mean that God is against you.  It means that there’s an inherent risk to living at all.  You were thrust into existence without being consulted.  But now that you’re here, you’re free to venture your all for the good.  The promise of Christ is that ultimately your venture will pay off.  Death is not the end.

    People who have only this world to live for figure that nothing they do matters.  But the Christian message is that everything you do matters, even the tiny things.  Even a small creature can live in harmony with its Maker.  He is always at work everywhere for good, and he invites you to participate in that work, wherever you are, whoever you are.

    You’re free to reject his offer.  You can rage against your Creator.  He allowed evil into this world, and now you can increase the sum of evil.

    But know that if you choose for what is right and true and good, God is on your side, even when everything else in the universe seems to be against you.  And he promises that the pain will last only as long as this life.  You will emerge into peace for eternity.

    That leaves now, and everything we have to face in this moment in time.  Sometimes we can’t understand why God does what he does.  Why does he hurt us?  Why make us stay in our place in a corner with a cone around our necks?  We didn’t do anything wrong.  

    Heave a big sigh and wait: maybe something good will come along next.

    Don’t fret.  Don’t chew on your hurt and make it worse.  Save your energy for the good you can do.  If the path before you is clear, and if you have the strength, get up every day and keep going.  Be patient.  Bear up.  There’s no quick fix to any complex problem, and you will encounter many problems along the way.

    When you’ve done everything you can do, then stand firm and wait for God himself to act on your behalf.  If you can’t stand up anymore, sit down.  If even sitting is too much, lie still and be who you are where you are.  There’s a time to let people who love you take care of you.  You’re not alone in this.  Fix sad eyes on your Maker.  Remain alert to his call.

    An injury can happen in an instant.  The healing takes a long, long time.  It saps all the strength you’ve got.

    Healing is your job now.  We want you back.

     

    Do not repay one bad turn with another 1 Thessalonians 5:151 Peter 3:9.  Do not injure anyone, but bear injuries patiently.  (Rule of St. Benedict 4. 29-30)

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